Thursday, February 9, 2012

Introducing Rebacca

In late December, 2010 a young woman called me.  She explained how she knew me and that by marriage she was distantly related to Keith.  She went on to say that another relative told her that I adopted children.  She then told me she had an almost 1 year old little girl, whom she had been made place in relative care.  The placement wasn't working out and she wanted to know if we would be interested in a placement with this baby.  Now this isn't new, several times I've been blessed with children literally being  given to me.  Of course we went through all the legal paperwork, and was granted guardianship of Rebecca in March.  I thought it would be short term based on what the mother said, but have since learned it's more likely to be permanent as she has had another child in another county and has had that child taken and is in process of having her rights terminated.  AND yes, I did ask for the new baby, but was told NO!  We have too many children.  If it had been up to this particular agency, I wouldn't have Rebecca.  So, she is now 2, and a hand full.  She is very smart, I don't see any delays there.  However she is on the go, climbing, running, jumping, throwing, and any other  physical activity you can imagine.  She has brought a lot of joy to us.  She's physically healthy and rarely sick.  She is talking up a storm and is so funny.  She  and my grandson are only 3 months apart.  They tie for who is the most spoiled.  So I'm 49 and a mother to a 2 year old.  I'm cringing at the thought when someone mistakes me for her grandmother.  Thank goodness for hair color LOL.  Life is funny and so unpredictable.  We were considering taking an older sibling group.  The children who they choose for us just wasn't appropriate for our family.  I can't take children who start fires, sexually act out,  and smoke.  I know that sounds so sad.  It should never get that far.  But it does and there just isn't enough homes able to take all the trouble youth in today's foster care system.  Not to mention all the damage done by drug addicted mothers, alcoholics, and mental illness.

There are times when I ask the Lord, if he's sure I'm on the right path.  It's in my heart to parent and adopt, but society makes it so hard to raise God fearing, respectable adults. Some of the stuff the government is coming up with makes me cringe.  If I had stopped after my last birth child I wouldn't even be aware of some of the stuff being taught to our kids.  Or some of the stuff society demands of them.  Their heads are pumped full of what they NEED, and what is rightfully theirs.  Not just love, food, shelter, clean clothes, education and bible based teaching.  NOPE,  they need, organized sports, cell phones, drivers licence at 16, later curfews, clothes with some name on them, violent games, and any TV they so choose.  Yes, these are some of the issues I've actually had to defend our family from.  Other mothers just don't see things as I do.  I know I'm older, but I think it's society's fault.  More things are acceptable, actually expected. OK I'm gonna stop now.  This is a post about Rebacca. The last picture is of her first day with us.  

1 comment:

  1. Hello Vickie,
    Thank you for introducing Rebecca to us! It is amazing how some children come into our lives. I so agree with you on the rest of your post. So many parents think we are almost depriving our kids because none of them at home have cell phones. Oh the horror! When our older kids got cars and were off on their own more, we had a "family" cell phone that they could use. Then when they were 18 if they wanted a newer phone with better features, they bought it and paid for the service. And that is what we will continue to do with the rest of the kids at home. So do not let anyone make you feel you are a bad parent because you don't let them do things. You have to decide what is best for your kids. Especially if they are adopted. That brings on a WHOLE new set of issues. Jenny Goff